DO
Get the balance.
Ok, often, ‘First year doesn’t count’, but if you go through the entire first
year not giving a crap, you’re setting yourself up for a fall for the years to
come. Don’t live in the library like a hermit, but try to find that balance. It
probably won’t be 50:50 work and social, but when it’s more 10:90, then that
may be a problem.
Learn to be accepting.
A lot of people you meet at uni will not have the same outlook on life as you.
Let’s just put it like that. You just have to learn to tolerate it. Take them
with a pinch of salt and remember your sense of humour. Seriously, you’ll need
it.
Remember your home
friends. Don’t neglect them. There will come a point where you need them.
When you just need to tell someone something that doesn’t require a thirty
minute background story, they’re the ones you’ll want.
Have fun. Uni
will probably be the best time of our lives, sadly! Enjoy it, this is probably
the most free time we’ll have until retirement and maybe the richest we’ll be.
Tragic but true. Uni is for having fun and experiencing life, not just for the
degree.
DON’T
Be fake. Be who
you are. I know that maybe this sounds a bit cliché but seriously, pretending
to be someone you’re not to fit in with a specific person or group will become
tiring and disappointing. There is literally no point in pretending to be
cooler, less cool, popular, less popular, a bigger drinker, less of a
partier...than you are. There is a group out there for everyone. It doesn’t
make sense to be fake and change who you are. You want people to like the ‘real’
you so just go ahead and be exactly that. You’ll thank me in the long run.
Over-commit. You
need a balance of friends. Maybe people from your accommodation, course or society
but not EVERYONE in your entire accommodation, all 100 people in your core
module and every member of each committee from the 17 societies you joined.
They aren’t your ‘friends’. Invest time in a smaller group and the wider group
will come naturally. OK, you may know 150 new people, but how many of them consider
YOU their actual friend??
Be alone. On the
flip side, don’t suffer in silence. If you’re feeling painfully homesick, don’t
hide away. Chances are that someone else is feeling the same. On that note, DON’T
run home straight away. Give it at least a month. If it’s still unbearable
then, think about your options. If I based my entire view on university on just
my Fresher’s week I would DEFINITELY not still be here now. More on that later
in the year
Be THAT girl. I’ll
leave this up to your own interpretation but have a bit of self respect ladies.
You honestly don’t want to be a BNOC, because that is never a positive thing.
If you don’t even know what a BNOC is, that’s great.
Forget to grow up.
You’re at least 18 now. Try to avoid ‘teenage’ drama, it’s not attractive and
will only wear you down.
Expect to find the
one. It probably won’t happen. Cry.
-Alex
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